One Step At A Time

I have always struggled with one fear...the fear of failing. I don’t like to fail. It feels awful! In the past when I have failed, I usually told myself that that’s that, I would never be good at this, no matter how hard I tried. It’s just not going to happen…. EVER!

But who really defines what failure is? I am learning that the only way we fail is when we give up all together.

This past month I had set a goal with a deadline for it to be accomplished by Monday night. Guess what? It didn’t happen. My mind immediately defaulted to the thought, “Well, that’s that. You didn’t’ reach your goal. You failed.” It felt awful and I was discouraged for a while.

But then I had another thought that maybe, just maybe I wasn’t supposed to finish by Monday. Maybe it was supposed to happen this way.

So, on Tuesday I got up and tried again. It wasn’t easy. I kept second guessing myself, analyzing it over and over again. I wanted to just be done with it! At the end of the night, I made a decision. Even if it wasn’t perfect (whatever “perfect” means), I was going to call it good and be excited that I had done something hard and reached my goal.

And that is exactly what I did. And it feels so good! I am learning that it is never all or nothing. There are so many ways to reach our goals. For me I will take it one step at a time, failing along the way, or in other words, learning and trying over and over again.